15 Habits of people with concealed depression. 

Depression is a very serious mental illness that often goes unnoticed for years. People with concealed depression are battling demons within themselves all on their own. They are not sharing their struggles and do not want to burden those around them.

You see, for most people wounds are not something we are open about. We tend to bottle things up and attempt to remedy them on our own. If you are reading this then you must know someone who you feel you need to better understand or you relate to this yourself. The following 15 habits are some of the most common I have noticed in people dealing with concealed depression.

1. The are often quite talented and very expressive.

Alot of famous people have suffered from mental illnesses, and this suffering gives them deeper emotions. If you really think about it, this is in some form a source to their greatness. While we cannot always see it, their struggles are often reflected in their works. These people are able to bring something beautiful out of the darkness that consumes them.

2. They tend to search for purpose.

We all need a purpose in this life. We want to be sure that we are in some form doing meaningful things. People suffering from hidden depression are not exempt from this. They too want to know the reason for their existence. They are much more susceptible to feeling things like inadequacy and anxiety which leaves them searching for something they can never seem to achieve in their own minds.

3. Sometimes they make muted cries for help.

Sometimes we all need help. When we are not expecting someone to feel weak or to be down in the dumps, we don’t see their cries for help. However, if you notice their cries and can help them in any way, you are creating a very close and trust filled bond with them.

4. They interpret substances differently.

Someone who is dealing with depression usually knows what it is they can take to ease their pain in a sense. They know that caffeine and sugar will raise their mood and that some medicines can help them. They actually have to put a lot of effort into feeling better, unlike most people. It is not as simple as taking a Tylenol when you have a headache.

5. They often have a very involved perception of life and death.

People suffering from depression often face their own mortality in moments of despair and seek answers to life’s deepest questions. They tend to shift from one terrible mindset into another. Sure, not all depressed people deal with suicidal thoughts, but some do.

6. They have strange eating habits.

People with depression may not be able to eat much or at all when they are at their worst. That being said some of them may eat more when at their worst. It varies from person to person.

7. They have abnormal sleeping habits.

People with depression will often sleep for what seems like or may literally be days. Sleep at times can be impossible while other times could be the only thing left that the person can do. When a person is depressed they are dealing with a state of helplessness that will rock their world.

8. They have abandonment issues usually.

If you have dealt with abandonment then you know how terrible it can be. When someone walks out of your life it can be a devastating, but this impacts those with depression much more than other people. It causes them to be more and more secretive about their feelings and creates a fear within them of being abandoned by their loved ones.

9. They are professionals at coming up with ‘cover-up’ stories.

They are able to come up with believable elaborate excuses for the things they are going through. Like if they skip an appointment or don’t return your calls for days. They can easily change the subject when things like this come up and turn the attention away from their pain.

10. They might have habitual remedies.

There are several different lifestyle changes a person can make as an attempt to ease their minds. For instance, these people may do things like exercise, listen to music, go walking, and so forth.

11. They are aways making efforts to seem happy.

People suffering from depression learn to fake moods. They will often come off as happy and normal on the outside. When they let their inner struggles appear on the outside they feel as if they are bringing others down.

12. They seek love and acceptance.

People with hidden depression are not hiding their depression because they want to be dishonest, they are just working to protect their hearts. These people want to be loved and accepted just like everyone else.

13. They have trouble shutting off their brains.

These people process everything going on in their lives at a fast speed. They over analyze the good and the bad making everything impact them much deeper. Their brains are like sponges absorbing everything that comes their way.

14. They hurt when other people hurt.

When other people are suffering it brings them down to their worst points. This sort of thing often triggers their emotional pain and can be crippling.

15. They always think of the worst-case scenarios.

While this is very stressful it can be beneficial from time to time. A high intelligence seems to be linked with depression, and they are able to respond to anything that comes their way. This makes them good problem solvers for the most part.

If you or someone you care about is suffering from concealed depression either get help or offer a helping hand. Fighting this alone is not easy or productive. The world can be a wonderful place if you get the help you need nothing can stand in your way. You are not a burden to others and the people who love and care about you want to help you, let them.


 Originally posted on – Awareness act


39 Comments Add yours

  1. aghisla says:

    Thanks! This is so clear and to the point. It is easy to miss depression signs in other people, to mistake them as simple stumbles that they can overcome. I hope I can be more attuned to the silent calls for help around me.
    Take care, dear Sooz!

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    1. Thankyou, although this is not my work. Its from an article I found. Im glad it helped. Love Sooz x

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  2. This is a beautiful post, very clear and sensitively written. xx

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    1. I can’t find the authors name unfortunately. But they did a lovely job! X

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  3. funny, this post got brought up in a support group i went to, yesterday. it’s like deja vue all over again. 🙂

    here’s the non-facebook-ied version of the url for the other 25 people in the world who, like me, don’t do facebook.


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    1. Thankyou very much for sharing it! Love Sooz x

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  4. musicgirl19 says:

    Thank you for sharing this! I wish people were more understanding like you ❤️

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  5. manyofus1980 says:

    This was good! Ty for sharing it! xx

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  6. Great article, thank you for sharing it! x

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  7. updownflight says:

    You made so many good and important points on this topic! I recently wrote about feigning wellness, but that was a more narrow topic. I’m glad you posted more on this.

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    1. Unfortunately I didn’t write this wonderful piece of work. However, I am thrilled the author covered what they did! It makes you feel a little more understood. Well it does me! Love Sooz x

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  8. ustome says:

    Scary – this is just as good to help people see depression in themselves as with other people. I was diagnosed with depression in January following a marriage break up but that post describes me in so many ways! It took me a long time to go to the doctors as I had convinced myself I could ‘snap myself out of it’. This time I couldn’t.

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    1. It’s a great article for that! Thankyou for your comment! I hope your battle is being won! X

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      1. ustome says:

        It is, thank you. But like anything, the biggest and most important step is acknowledging you have a problem. Great post. 😊 x

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  9. cherished79 says:

    Great post and clearly worded.

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  10. This is such an interesting post thank you for sharing it. There are some very important traits flagged her on a topic that is often brushed over or ignored! X

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    1. Sorry for the comment bombardment, it wouldn’t send!

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  11. What an interesting post thank you for sharing it. This is very clear information on a topic that is very important but often dismissed! Even if you can’t spot these signs in people you know at the moment it is good to be aware for them, so you can take swift action when you do! X

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  12. What an interesting post thank you for sharing it. This is such an important topic which is often brushes under the carpet. Even if you don’t know anyone with these traits right now it is good to be aware of them so that if you start to notice them in someone, swift action can be taken! X

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  13. Gemma says:

    This was a great post. I recognise a lot of those habits in me. A lot of people are shocked when I tell them I have depression x

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  14. kanchierey says:

    This is very clear and completely true!!!

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  15. CreativeMisfit says:

    i hate that this is me but is more or less 100% me… Sometimes i am so closed off and pretend I am okay but get annoyed when people dont realise that i am not actually okay.. This is my fault and I know I shouldnt think that way but i talk myself in to thinking people really dont care when I know that if i said how i really felt they would care. I need to remember people aren’t mind readers

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  16. swabby429 says:

    This is a good, concise list that does not succumb to feel-good triteness and woo.

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  17. It’s interesting reading those first few lines where it says that we don’t want to burden others with our problems. I think this is a chicken and egg scenario. I think initially we do tell others about how we feel, but as they switch off, we then feel like we are putting a burden on those around us. I think them switching off is more the problem, and because they do, it makes everything we experience compound. So then when someone asks us how are we, we reply with okay, even if we are dying inside, because they want to hear the okay, not the “I’m feeling like crap”. The societal stigma surrounding mental illness makes everything worse, and traps us in an eternal spiral downwards. Funnily enough, I have actually started telling people I feel like crap when they ask now instead of okay, and in a weird way it is so liberating to do so !!!

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  18. Divya says:

    Great article!!
    Hope it helps those suffering from depression

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  19. Cece Alex says:

    Reblogged this on The Wallflower In Wonderland and commented:
    I’ve been so open, yet still so secretive about my depression.
    Here, I stumbled upon an amazing post on the 15 habits of people with concealed depression. So relatable xoxo

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  20. Charlotte says:

    I don’t like this post, I don’t agree with it all, or maybe I do, Idk, it makes me uncomfortable anyway. what if were not all highly intelligent but are depressed anyway? I don’t really try to make my self happy around others, or maybe I do? but I tend to hide away from people as much as possible, when I get really bad depression I mostly stay shut up in the house refusing to see anyone, but yeah I suppose I come up with excuses for missing appointments and then it always makes me feel really bad afterwards but I feel like I couldn’t help it. Idk, depression is confusing, it makes us do stuff we know will make us unhappy yet we feel helpless to act any differently, idk.

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    1. Thank you for commenting. I’m always pleased when someone takes the time to say when they don’t agree. There’s always two sides to every story, or more I’m sure in every case of depression. I do hope your depression eases one day, and it gets easier. Thanks again. Love Sooz x


    2. C.C. says:

      Charlotte, I’m by no means an expert, but I can tell you from experience that symptoms of depression can differ from person to person. Just because one person struggles with all of these, another depressed individual may only struggle with half.
      It’s an accurate generalized list, but that doesn’t mean everything on it applies to you or to me
      What you’re feeling sounds totally normal. It’s utterly exhausting pretending to be happy around everyone else. No one wants to pretend all the time. Sometimes it’s just too hard and you can’t help but be sad, or you choose to stay home because you’re too tired and weary to pretend, because you’ve lost the desire to be around others (which typically makes a person more sad).
      We lose ambition to do things we enjoy, and seek seclusion. Sometimes we sleep a lot because it’s the only time we don’t feel sad. Sometimes we can’t sleep, and tiredness makes it worse.

      In my opinion, depression is no different than a heart condition. It may take medication, it may take lifestyle changes to improve our health (walking, forcing ourselves to confide in others, seeing a therapist), but most of all it takes compassion.
      If you’re heart needs help, you don’t push yourself, you don’t punish yourself, and you don’t belittle yourself because you may not be able to do things you did before. It doesn’t mean you never will. And if you have a heart condition, I guarantee you tell your friends and family, because it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
      Your mind deserves just as much compassion.
      Depression is hard, and there will be good days and bad days. But never lose hope that tomorrow will be better.

      With thoughts and prayers,

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  21. Posts like this make me suspicious that I could be depressed. It’s good seeking help because, well, I have ever been at my worst and didn’t seek help. I kinda waded through the difficulties and came out stronger, and growing stronger every day. And most of what happened when I didn’t seek help was basically rediscovering the wheel.

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  22. Great post! I can relate to seeking purpose. When I had my worst depression over a few years of loneliness I discovered photography. How this have helped me is beyond words!

    I was out walking every day, forcing myself and looked at everything I thought looked nice, snapped a picture of it.

    Before 2015 I never used to take any photography. And now I found purpose and working on becoming a full time photographer. It have given my life so much purpose and joy. 🙂

    I also want to help others struggling with depression and loneliness. Knowing there is always light in the end. I’m so glad I didn’t end up doing the thing I never could have undone.

    Best of days to you! 😊

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  23. Yep, these points are certainly true! I have sadly experienced most of them.

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  24. MumsWorld says:

    This is so true every single word ❤️

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  25. INFJash says:

    This is a great post. My partner suffers from depression. I would appreciate a post on what loved ones can do to help!

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    1. I will see what I can do! X

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