Grief, a subject I’ve chosen to write about as it is so prevalent in everyday life.
Grief can be so many things,a terminal illness, a death, the end of a relationship, even the end of a career.
The grieving process is never a set time, for some it can last a lifetime, for others not so long, and the process may not always start when something comes to an end.
Grief for me, feels like something so painful it can never be explained. It affects so many different parts of your life. Your memories feel tainted by that sadness.
Grief is difficult, in my experience to feel on your own. There is always other people to factor in. Some move on faster, some slower and some say or do things that make you want to scream.
Probably 50% of my close family (parents, sibling excluded) died before I was 14. It affected both my child and adult hood massively. I wasn’t prepared, mentally or physically for the loss.
All of the deaths included some kind of illness, which was a cruel awakening to a cruel world. Whilst adults are grieving it’s maybe easy to forget about a child, especially one who says it’s all fine.
As an adult I’ve learned death is unfortunately a very real part of being alive. It’s just as sad, yet you understand it, you never want it.
I selfishly find the way other people deal with grief the worst part of death. I always have, even from being a small child. The whole funeral/wake ritual baffles. People I’ve never met want to hug me.
I think I find a lot of solace in the way South America deal with death, día de los muertes, makes me want to celebrate like that. Death is the only certainty we ever have. Yet I have maybe spent 10-20% of my life grieving. 2-5 years!
Grief isn’t just about death, again, in my opinion, when something ends
.. I even have a brief mourning period when I have eaten the last biscuit and I look sadly at the bottom of the tin! Jokes aside, a period of grieving is important, when a relationship ends its only natural to feel like something has died, there’s something missing, it has.
When a career ends whether through illness, redundancy or a costly mistake, it’s again a loss, even if that loss is your own doing, your life changes.
So to finish off, as I think I’ve rambled enough!
Do you think grief is within each day or solely restricted to death?
Do you struggle with grief?
Love Sooz xx
Note: this blog is from my own perspective, they aren’t meant to offend anyone and I fully understand that grief affects everyone in different ways.