Sex, self love and porn


When I was a teenager I was awakened to sex- like most.. But not always with another person. I’ve always made it my business to know what I like, what I don’t and my own body. I have spend hundreds of pounds trying different sex toys with only a handful making the cut.Whilst having another person there brings a whole new level of both intimacy and occasionally pleasure. I feel it’s important to know yourself.  
Sex isn’t something I talk about often on social media and whilst I’m not about to go into exceptional personal details- don’t worry! I still believe it’s an important subject to bring up, after all, it’s part of nearly every single persons life from 90 to 19! That’s right, that little old lady on the bus …  
As I’ve mentioned in previous blogs I’ve had sex with both sexes and that isn’t something that I’m embarrassed by, I’m not ashamed of saying I slept with men, before I came out or that I can rule out never sleeping with one again. 

Obviously sleeping with men and women is different, but we all seek the same thing from sex… The Holy grail- the orgasm!
 Some men have been.. hotdog in bun…. Swish it round, oh there’s the sauce, whilst you’re still thinking about the washing! But others have been mindblowing experiences. 
I know that if I didn’t know myself then I couldn’t have had those experiences! 
Women are not all that different (well some bits are!) but different enough… I’ve always found sex with a woman more fulfilling and more fun, but maybe that comes with age and experience. 
Self love, isn’t always about whacking one out…although that does hit the spot! it’s about learning what you feel like, what sensations you feel, what you like, what you don’t and generally how your body responds. 
Porn… There I’ve said it! It’s not a dirty word, it’s on computers all over the world and its not just for men. 

Porn isn’t just about watching two people have sex… There’s thousands of categories, there’s many from a woman’s perspective, they can give you ideas, let you see what you like or what you definitely don’t! I watch porn maybe once a week and I’m entirely unashamed of that. 
Sex is so important for mental and physical wellbeing (think of the calories)  but being safe is more so, regular STD checks, contraception and ensuring your own safety when meeting someone. In the UK you can go to a G.u.m clinic and get condoms, lube, femidoms,  and dental dams of all shapes, sizes and flavours as well as tested for STD’s and oral contraceptives all for free. Not to lecture but keep yourself safe!

There will be another post about sex when youre fat in the near future!

Love Sooz x
P.S everything I’ve written about is solely from my perspective, I understand that sex isn’t possible or a necessity in some lives and I fully support everyone regardless of their sex lives. never feel pressured to have sex or do anything you’re uncomfortable with. 

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5 Comments Add yours

  1. Kalamain says:

    The funny thing about sex and sexuality is that it is NOT a zero sum game. You really do have to put in to get out what you want. The more you put in the more both of you will get out of it.

    The same goes for self love… Masturbation. The more you put into it the better. Oh… And sometimes the best toy you can have is your mind. Think on that long and…. hard… B-P

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    1. Thank you! Love Sooz x

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  2. Pinkspen says:

    I love a strong, powerful & intelligent mind. I love it. I would love your feedback on my blog LADYHOOD https://aladyhoodjourney.wordpress.com/ I have multiple posts, most recent, “Self-Love Quotes” & “Beauty Is…” I aim to challenge women to become the best versions of themselves and push back against the pop culture standards of what a woman is. I would love some constructive criticism.
    Great post!

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